Why do we judge when we don’t want to be judged?

By Carla Jane Muega

That is the question that popped in my head while thinking of people doing actions that are considered wrong by others and by the society.

Do we feel nice if we judge people? I guess we just feel righteous. We can say that they should have done what is right but they chose to do what is wrong.

Why do we judge when we don’t want to be judged by Carla Jane Muega

Do we still feel nice or righteous if we get judged by people? Certainly not, in contrast we feel awful. Mainly because people judge us for the wrong things we do without even asking us what makes us do those things, not that we blame them for our own wrongful actions, but we want them to at least understand us in some way.

This led me to a thought so deep you don’t even want to try diving into. Of course that’s a joke so don’t judge me. Again, I’m just kidding.

What if instead of judging people, let’s try to encourage them to do better next time? Let’s help them forgive themselves and move on from the failure? Why don’t we teach them to learn from their mistakes and avoid making them again? You might ask me why we should bother to do these. The answer is simple; to avoid depression that leads to Suicide.

Suicide is a very serious dilemma that the society faces now. It is so prevalent that it becomes a trend for both the young and adult as their last resort if not the first when they meet “problem” in its most cruel appearance in their lives.

Let’s put it this way, when we judge people we make them feel bad about themselves which is not helpful at all. I know..I know that you will say that they won’t get judged if they don’t make mistakes but don’t we all make stupid actions or mistakes all the time? It is what makes us humans. Only God can make calculated and perfect actions all the time.

Since we can’t undo what’s been done, why don’t we take a different approach on this? Why not, we help them do better the next time? Why not, we help them make wise decisions that will lessen their mistakes? Why not, we make them feel that there’s someone willing to listen to them and who actually cares for them, so they won’t feel cast out, so they won’t feel depressed, so they won’t have time to seriously consider taking their own lives because they don’t feel that their worth to anything good in this lifetime. This is what I mean by avoiding suicides to happen.

Carla Jane Muega
If we care so much not to stress Tarsiers because of their suicidal tendency, then shouldn’t we care so much more not to cause stress to humans around us because they too have a suicidal tendency?
We have all judged and been judged on mistakes that don’t define who we really are. Also, we all want to have a loving and peaceful society where we feel accepted and loved for the real us. These are what we have in common.

I hope we will do some careful thinking on this.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

September 14, 2018 

Diamond Georgina

Diamond Georgina is a lifestyle entrepreneur and blogger based in Iloilo City. Apart from blogging and being a professional salesperson, she loves filming (video content), traveling, and emerging in communities. She considers herself a life-long learner. Feel free to collaborate.

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